CoupleCareRoutine.com is the home of the Couple Care Routine: a small set of recurring rituals, daily, weekly, and monthly, that couples do together to keep their relationship healthy. The same way a skincare routine keeps your skin healthy.
We built this site because most relationship advice is either a list of grand gestures or a crisis manual. Very little of it helps with the part that decides how most relationships go: the ordinary weeks in between.
Who we are
CoupleCareRoutine.com is a project by Vanilla, the team behind the PumPum relationship app, Mood Pass, and Love Notes. We spend our days building small tools that help couples stay close, and this site is where we share the rituals behind them, free and without a sign-up.
How we write our guides
- Research first. Our rituals borrow from relationship science, especially the work of the Gottman Institute on “rituals of connection”, turning toward each other, and repairing small conflicts early. When a guide rests on a specific finding, we say so in plain language.
- Practical over clever. Every guide should leave you with something you can do tonight: a question to ask, a script to try, a ritual with a clear time and anchor.
- Small on purpose. If a ritual feels like homework, it is too big. We design for tired people with busy weeks.
- Inclusive by default. Our guides are written for all kinds of couples, whatever your genders, ages, or schedules.
- Kept current. Each guide shows the date it was last meaningfully updated. When we learn something better, we rewrite the page.
What this site is not
A Couple Care Routine is maintenance for relationships that are basically healthy. It is not couples therapy, and nothing here is medical, psychological, or legal advice.
If you are dealing with abuse, feel unsafe, or feel stuck in distress that does not ease, please reach out to a licensed therapist or a local support service. In an emergency, contact your local emergency number.
Products we mention
We sometimes mention our own apps where they genuinely help with a ritual, and we keep it to one short line. You never need an app to follow a Couple Care Routine. Every ritual on this site works with nothing but the two of you and a little time.
Contact
Questions, corrections, or ideas for a ritual we should write about? Get in touch with us.